Quote Originally Posted by mimitabby View Post
Indy, i have a sister with a reallly really bad man picker. It did not matter when the whole family told her that mr wonderful #5 was a loser, she DID NOT WOULD NOT COULD NOT listen. She had to wallow in it with him and see for herself. Your friend is going to have to do that too.
In her case, it looks like this marriage will give her an easy way out of having to work too hard at bettering herself; she can focus on him instead. You don't HAVE to be at that wedding. Walk away.. like the other gals all said.
Mimi, I wish I knew how to do that. I've known this woman since 1988. We've been through a lot together, and I love her like a sister. I'd pay a heavy price for making a big statement. I hate to see her making what feels like a bad decision, but I feel like the best thing for me to do is pray that it turns out okay and to be there for her as best I can (after taking care of myself that is) if it doesn't. Who knows? Maybe it'll be a happy union. Or maybe Bill is a mistake she needs to make. I may sound harsh and judgmental in my previous posts on this subject (I needed to vent), but at the end of the day, I'm willing to admit that I really don't have the answers for how anybody other than myself should live their life.