My experience with anyone that makes things "all about them" is that you cannot change that. No matter how much explaining or pointing out you try to do, YOU usually end up being frustrated because it will invariably get twisted from what your best intentions are trying to accomplish.

I think you both have to grieve in your own way and no one can dictate how or how long it might take. Silver is doing what is healing and helpful for her and I commend her for the work she has don. The other lady is coping the best that she knows how.