I see lots and lots of posts in response to this, so before I read them, I'll say this.

After she knows all the pros and cons of having a piercing there, and after she understands that you feel "played" in some way, then I'd say don't stand in her way.

It's just art. She's not you. Her body is not yours. The way she expresses herself is not in your control. She'll just wait and do it later.

We only think we have control over what our kids do, when in fact, we only have influence. If we insist on control, we eventually give up influence, too. If you want influence, you have to give up the idea you have control.

That's my standard young adult parenting advice. That, and the mantra, "They're going to be GREAT 25 year olds!"

It's true...my eldest turned 25 last week and he's just GREAT!

Karen