
Originally Posted by
yellow
solo--been there (kind of). The move was tough, didn't work out, and now you're both dealing with the situation in your different ways. I suspect that if the circumstances were different he may not have said anything at all. Feeling bad person 1 + feeling bad person 2 = stream of negative consciousness comments. Give yourselves time to work through it all (and I mean a LOT of time. I'm still "working through" my move 1.5 years ago, a move that wasn't my idea and in which I was not generally in favor of). Make sure you balance the disappointments with lots of "I love You"s and good thoughts about the future that you share with each other. Give as much as you can (and I know how hard it is to give when you're feeling like you do). It'll really help in the long run!
Wise words from Yellow. Its really easy to see negatives as just happening to you and not everyone in the family. Each time we move I have lots of negative feelings and it normally takes me a good 18 months before I start feeling at home. In the beginning I would vent these on my husband but over time I have learnt that its hard for everyone and that I need to be more positive to help everyone, including myself, adjust (lol normally just in time for the next move).
I hope you find your dream home soon.
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