Quote Originally Posted by mimitabby
Boy, these are wise words. I quaked whenI found out that my sister's 4th husband dumped "a fat homely older woman with a bad disposition" for her. (my sister is not homely but meets the rest of that description). My only hope is that he will get enough fatter and older himself that he can't pull the same stunt on her.

Hey, how did my relationship start with the DH? He honked his horn at me
and I honked back. We toot tooted all the way down the street until
i realized he was someone I knew! I was just having fun.
The rest... is history.
(so is that how our relationship will end? Honking horns?)
I'm not sure, but I think it feels good that I'm friends with my ex, and dgf is friends with hers (not that I'm fond of her ex...) and speaks well of our being able to admit when things 'don't work' and being able to gracefully move on.
I admit I was thisclose to seriously damaging my sister's ex when I heard him tell a friend he "just lost 140# of ugly fat". He's an army boy, so I had to re-think the whole "remove his arm and beat him with it" thing, but yeah.

I think what my husband meant was if you start a relationship by cheating on your ex 'for' them, the relationship will likely end in infidelity, too... (love easily won is easily lost) ... if you *suddenly* fall in love, you can *suddenly* fall out of love, if you start a relationship based on sex, it might end because that base disappears, or if you start as friends, if you end, you'll hopefully end as friends, as that was there all along...

He was pretty wise for a 20 year old guy... just no **** common sense. He'd say the same of me, I'm sure.