hubby

[maryellen]

how true--when my partner and I got together, we both worked very long hours. I got off that track and pursued a career with a saner life style. Hard to imagine how it would work if we were just meeting now, when I dash off on my bike at the first opportunity each weekend!

[Adventure Girl]

My husband Robert is an avid motorcyclist (sport bikes/road racing/track days – not cruiser/harley type). It can be very dangerous and he has been hospitalized a few times – twice very seriously. But he takes all precautions. His bikes are always 100% maintained and safe, and he wears state-of-the-art protective gear (leather riding suit with body armor, gloves, helmet, boots). I'm always worried when he rides and races. He knows this and does everything in his power to ease my fears. He stays in contact with me (cell phone calls) as much as he can. And he never makes me worry unnecessarily.

I try to do the same thing for him when I'm out riding. (What's more dangerous? 150+ MPH in leather gear or 30+ MPH in lycra?) He always knows where I'm riding and when to expect me. I call whenever I'm delayed for any reason.

I would never ask him to stop riding his motorcycle and he would never ask me to stop cycling. To be honest, he wouldn't be the same man if he quit (same for me).

The funny thing is that he contributes to a motorcycle riders' forum. And this exact same subject has come up. "How do I get my wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend to let me ride?" To me it isn't a matter of "letting me ride" or "letting him ride". It's a matter of choosing the right partner in the first place. I would have more "freedom" if I was single, but it wouldn't be a good trade-off. The cost of that freedom would be losing my biggest fan and greatest supporter (for support on or off the bike!) No thanks!

[SnappyPix]

Just reading through this thread.
Can't imagine how I'd cope if my s.o wasn't into fitness and cycling as much as me.
It's a pretty good feeling when you both get back after a long ride (and luckily, we're both equally matched in terms of pace and ability) (and most other things actually!) and you just stand there grinning at one another cos you're both on a high.
And having someone to mooch round a bike store with, who doesn't mind looking at stuuuuuuuff for 3 hours and coming back either empty handed, or loaded to the hilt!
Guess I've taken it all for granted - never really thought about how I'd cope with a couch potato.
I honestly don't think I'd cope! I'll often toddle off and do my own thing, either to the gym or on my bike, but wouldn't want to do it all the time. Company is nice.

[SnappyPix]

Sorry, didn't mean that to come across as being so conceited.
Apologies.
Just appreciating what I have I guess. Didn't mean to be obnoxious.

[bentforlife]

I feel the same way. Even though my husband and I have different hobbies, his, computers and sailboating and mine, music and biking. I would never think about asking him to quit and he doesn't ask me to quit. It is so neat when he comes home and has won a race or had a good time teaching about sailboating. And biking gives me the alone time I need sometimes to get rid of stress from the job. Besides it gives our daughters a good look at a partnership that can be diverse and still be strong-23 years married.

I hope you can find a solution.

Donna

[kimba]

Well- my hubby and I used to be the same way- we had so many shared interests.

Now- he just wants to sit on the couch and watch the big screen.

He eats a bag of cookies or chips a night.

When I first met him, he was a cyclist - I just messed around on my bike- he rode centuries! I fell in love with his legs....awesome...

he was the first guy I'd ever seen wear cycling shorts...real ones - with a real leather chamois.
His Fuji 12 speed - wow! a 12 speed- people then had just gotten into 10 speeds - cost him a grand at the time...
he was hard core.

Now - we've both had phases on and off the bike...
he trashed the front fork of the Fuji about 12 years ago and never got it fixed. It has pride of place in the shed though...we still have it.

I bought him a bike last Xmas - a mountain bike... a sturdy mountain bike to deal with his now Clydesdale physique. big 2.25 tires...but the frame is more diamond shaped, and bigger since he uses it mostly to ride to work.

He won't even consider riding with me. Singletrack - forget it!

I was stunned when he decided to do the Heart and Stroke 50 k ride with me...

Anyway- my last resort is to get my gearhead friend- to take a look at the Fuji- see what it needs to be refurbished-
and then go online to find replacement parts...

It's so tough- I want to ride with someone- sometimes it's so hard to get out on the bike by myself...but I can't compete with the tube...

Kimba
I hear ya...<shakes head sadly> I sooooo hear ya....