How generous a return policy are you looking for? I will only return bike shorts (or most any clothes) if I have not actually worn them other than the few minutes I spend trying them on. Once I've worn them for a bike ride I keep them even if I hate them. The only exception is if there's a defect.
Bontrager does offer a 30-day comfort guarantee on their bike accessories, and I think that also applies to their clothes. If so you could wear their shorts and then return them if you don't like them. But you'd want to confirm that in advance because I'm not sure the guarantee applies to clothes.
Unfortunately I do end up having to return a lot of bike shorts that I buy online because they don't fit right or just look awful. I've learned over the years to look for certain features to improve the odds that I'll like what I buy -- at least 8" long (9" is better if I can find it), seamless chamois with a shape and size similar to ones I've found comfortable, wide or tulip waistband. But as you say, some are still and immediate NOPE when I try them.
The shorts that Team Estrogen sells are all brands and styles that have worked well for many of their customers over the years, so if you haven't looked there yet you should. If you're not sure about sizing you can call or email them for specific advice -- have your measurements ready.
Also if you have an REI near you, they have a good selection of women's bike clothes and carry some different brands in addition to PI.
- Gray 2010 carbon WSD road bike, Rivet Independence saddle
- Red hardtail 26" aluminum mountain bike, Bontrager Evoke WSD saddle
- Royal blue 2018 aluminum gravel bike, Rivet Pearl saddle
Gone but not forgotten:
- Silver 2003 aluminum road bike
- Two awesome worn out Juliana saddles