Food choice defensive

[westtexas]

I was just wondering from you guys - have you ever had others questions your food choices and you felt kind of defensive about it? Certainly ever is entitled to eat whatever they want to eat, no matter how good/bad it may be for you/them, but when people say things about your personal diet does it upset you?

I recently went Paleo (except definitely not low carb on cycling days) because I found out I have celiac disease (10+ years of digestive disturbances gone in about a month!) and have dairy intolerance as well (even goat's milk). I don't try and push this diet on anyone, it's how I choose to eat now. And even though I feel GREAT and I want to share with everyone, I try to talk about it very little, except when people offer me things I used to eat heartily and I now decline and they wonder why.

But recently at a staff meeting, I made gluten/dairy free cupcakes - vanilla with vanilla frosting and little pockets of vanilla custard inside and topped with toasted almonds. I thought they were really good. But they all made faces and complained for the entire week about how gross my diet is and how can I eat that and what am I doing? And for some reason, I was actually wounded by this and it really put a damper on my whole week. And I used to go out with these people after work sometimes and I don't think they are inviting me on the next night out because it'll be too hard to find something I can eat (which isn't true, I can almost always find something at a restaurant - even italian!). I feel really bummed out by this.

So I was just wondering, any of you been in the same situation? What did you do? I'm not going back (first time I haven't had heartburn daily in 10 years!) and I LOVE the way I eat now (bacon everyday, anyone?). But I really need something nice to say to them when they get all closed-minded on me and I just want them to go away.

Thanks.

[Becky]

All the time, but on the opposite end of the spectrum. I have Type 1 diabetes, and the whole world thinks that my food choices are their business. IME, there's no good way to handle it. I vascilate between, "thanks for your concern, but I'm doing great" and "Who says I can't eat this?", depending on my patience level and the individual involved. It's especially irksome when the comments are founded in misunderstanding (you can't have that cookie!") or someone else's circumstances ("My cousin with diabetes eats Chinese food all the time- why don't you?").

In your situation, I think that all you can do is sow the idea that you do have lots of options for food choices, including eating out. Maybe say something like, "I know that it doesn't work for everyone, but I feel great!" with a big smile...?

((((westtexas))) I'm happy that you're feel so much better on your new diet, but I'm sorry that people are being mean about it.

[Biciclista]

YOU have to be tough. Of course it felt personal. IT WAS. but don't share your stuff with other people unless you know them to be open minded.
Over the years I have done a few different dietary things, but I mostly keep it quiet. the only thing i'm not quiet about is that i don't eat donuts!

[KnottedYet]

Also a celiacker.

Also lactose intolerant.

Also mostly paleo.

Let's go out for dinner!
I don't make gf stuff for anyone unless it's something heavy duty like brownies (Cravings Place brownie mix is awesome) because otherwise gf tastes weird to other folks. I'll bring deviled eggs or salami roll-ups or something else that never had grain in it in the first place.

If I have to explain my food choices, I say I've got celiac disease. If they don't know what celiac is, I explain it as "I get sick if I eat certain kinds of grain products." (It is not worth getting into a debate with well-meaning folks over spelt, triticale, einnkorn, etc etc etc...) Generally if I don't make a big deal out of it, neither do they. And, like you, going out to eat I can always find something, so eating out really isn't an issue.

Here's the recipe for salami roll-ups. If you are still at the casein-sensitive phase in your celiac recovery, you may want to hold off on these for another year or so. But it you are just lactose intolerant now, these are right up your alley! (though not really paleo, and certainly not healthful!)

Salami Roll-ups

package of sliced salami
cream cheese
some stinky cheese (like blue)
smoked almonds

Mix the stinky cheese and the cream cheese. Spread a thin layer over a piece of salami, covering one surface. Place one line of almonds end-to-end down the center of the salami. Roll the salami slice like a tortilla. Skewer with a toothpick.

Stuffed mushroom caps go over well at work, too. Easier to make than deviled eggs, and you can get really creative with the stuffing. Here's my basic super-fast three ingredient recipe.

Stuffed Mushroom Caps

fresh mushrooms
cream cheese
frozen cooked salad shrimp

Wash and stem mushrooms. Fill each cap with a dab of cream cheese. Rinse the shrimp with cold water to thaw them. Top each dab of cream cheese with a couple shrimps.

Any recipe you find for toppings for crackers or cute little finger foods can pretty much be made using mushrooms instead of crackers or bread rounds.

[ny biker]

Do the people at your staff meeting know why you've changed your diet? If they do, and they still carried on that way, then they're just a-holes. If they don't know, then it might help to explain it to one or two of them that you're closest to, and to include in your explanation that you're able to find something to eat in pretty much any restaurant you go to.

There will always be people who are unable to empathize with your situation and think you're weird or annoying because of your diet. Some of them won't have the good sense or manners to keep their mouths shut. Avoid them if you can. If you can't, shut them down by changing the subject. If they're really rude, just say "wow" and leave the room.

[Atlas]

I know exactly how you feel but from the most opposite food choices. I'm vegan and I never hear the end of it when I bring food. But it only becomes an issue if people know it's vegan/gf/whatever makes it 'different'. I just stopped mentioning it and people all the sudden thought everything was great. Everyone has preconceived notions about things, even food. I might mention something about it now after they've eaten it and passed their opinion based on flavor.

In your case I wouldn't make anything for them ever again, they obviously can't appreciate trying delicious new things.

[shootingstar]

But recently at a staff meeting, I made gluten/dairy free cupcakes - vanilla with vanilla frosting and little pockets of vanilla custard inside and topped with toasted almonds. I thought they were really good. But they all made faces and complained for the entire week about how gross my diet is and how can I eat that and what am I doing? And for some reason, I was actually wounded by this and it really put a damper on my whole week. And I used to go out with these people after work sometimes and I don't think they are inviting me on the next night out because it'll be too hard to find something I can eat (which isn't true, I can almost always find something at a restaurant - even italian!). I feel really bummed out by this.

I think that's really rude of them. And unbelievable that they are adults. Their behaviour is ...like children.

Like Mimi said, I do agree you have be tough but not explain yourself constantly about the food you eat/serve.

I've had people tell me that they don't like Chinese food, that it's slimy, fattening, blah, blah.

This is what I say to them and then I switch the subject: "You have no idea. Home cooked Chinese cooking is healthy and there are dishes that never make to the restaurant menus. You just have to know what to order in a Chinese restaurant...not just the typical stuff."

Of course, if I'm not a living example of healthy diet..then I dunno how else I can convince people.

C'est la vie.