I may not have always said this. But now, I'd say "let it be".
SilverDaughter was as prissy as any young girl...but with a streak of independence - she'd always wear two different colored socks, but each one matched her dress.
Then, as an early teen, she went through the "nearly goth" phase where everything she wore was black (except her bright red dog collar) This was a challenging time for me...
Then she found "her" look - which is anything but prissy, but very beautiful.
From a social standpoint, I think that the best thing that we can breed into our kids is versatility - an ability to adapt to the situation with comfort.
If you don't grow where you're planted, you'll never BLOOM - Will Rogers