Dear So and So

[VeganBikeChick]

I've heard more than once, when I was younger, "You'd be so pretty if you'd just lose some weight."

Roxy

My Dad still says that to me all the time. Part of me wonders if I stay fat just to spite him. We don't exactly have a loving relationship.

Really doesn't do much for the self-confidence, especially when you think all the guys out there only want to date skinny girls.



BIG HUGS to you, Roxy. Your strength, determination, and compassion is unparalleled.

[Biciclista]

Dear TE ladies
This is the first time I left DH (in the hospital) where I felt bad for me instead of for him. He's doing really well. He's got his sense of humor back (for what it's worth) and he's able to get up and do laps in the hospital hallways. The only bad part is that he has to ask the nurses to do it, because he still has a few lines that have to be messed with before he can leave his bed and the immediate vicinity of it.
Why do i feel bad for me? oh, it's being alone. Funny, it didn't bother me so much when he was out of state on a bike ride!

owell progress. every day.

[solobiker]

Happy to hear he is on his feet And you are not alone...you have all of us

[Biciclista]

aw, thanks! come for dinner tomorrow?

[solobiker]

Would love to.. whatcha making?? How long do you think it would take to get there from CO?

[Biciclista]

it depends on how fast you can ride. it's all downhill from Colorado, isn't it?
(maybe Chicken , brown rice, and stirfried veggies)

[NbyNW]

channlluv, if it's any consolation, the only way I see you is that big, victorious smile in your avatar, and it's gorgeous.

^ What lph said. And hugs. I'm sure you've developed ways to deal with the comments, but we all have days when things get to us.

Mimi: seriously, would you like company for dinner? DH is out of town this week so I can bring something over!

[bmccasland]

^ What lph said. And hugs. I'm sure you've developed ways to deal with the comments, but we all have days when things get to us.

Mimi: seriously, would you like company for dinner? DH is out of town this week so I can bring something over!

TE dinner party to cheer Mimi up? Or to drive her crazy and wish for quiet!

[Biciclista]

Mimi: seriously, would you like company for dinner? DH is out of town this week so I can bring something over!

I would love that. it's so quiet here without the Donald. It really doesn't normally bother me, but it is bothering me with him in the hospital like this.

[solobiker]

it depends on how fast you can ride. it's all downhill from Colorado, isn't it?
(maybe Chicken , brown rice, and stirfried veggies)

LOL...that is what I was planning too!! I will be there in spirit!! I am kind of shy just to warn you. If I was out there I would gladly join you for dinner.

[indysteel]

Mimi, I'm so glad to hear that Don is doing well, but I'm sorry you feel lonely. I sure hope your fellow NW TEers can join you for dinner. What a nice diversion that would be.

Roxy, you're beautiful!!! It makes me sad that you've had to endure such insensitivity. You deserve better.

[marni]

((Roxy))

Dear self:
Harden the **** up. While I can understand not wanting to ride with back cramps, given that the last time we did so, we nearly crashed, if you're going to ride for the remainder of the year, you're going to need to learn to do so in the cold.

two words- wool underlayers

marni

[Biciclista]

Dear Owlie
you don't have to spend a lot of $$$ for those wool underlayers. You'd be surprised what you can find in a thrift store..

[PamNY]

Dear Owlie
you don't have to spend a lot of $$$ for those wool underlayers. You'd be surprised what you can find in a thrift store..

That is so true. I just got out my winter clothes and, looking at the giant pile of wool, said to myself "What was I thinking?" But I know the answer -- I was thinking "$4.99 for a merino layer is too good to pass up."

Oh, and I was also thinking maybe the wool weenies can tell me where to put all this stuff...

[Selkie]

((Roxy))

I'm a firm believer in karma -- of the 'what goes around comes around' variety. I truly believe people who deliberately say or do unkind things will eventually get theirs.

It may not be immediate (oh, wouldn't it be great if such people could be vaporized on the spot?!?) but perhaps someday the petite skinny mom may wake up to find herself old and flabby and have someone remark on her less-than-perfect appearance, or, owing to her marvelous 'parenting' her son will grow up to be a callous self-centered jerk who does not give her the time of day.

I suppose it's a negative thought process to take; I don't really dwell on this kind of thing but it does help me get past injustices like that.

I agree 100% with Jo.

It's hard not to respond to an ugly, ignorant, mean, unsolicited comment, but keeping your dignity and ignoring it is always best.

When you roll in the dirt with pigs, you get dirty.

Weirdly enough, I've been a target of some heavy females. There's an extremely immature/loud/overweight woman at work who has: 1) made fun of my "chicken" neck (I'm almost 49); 2) accused me of having an eating disorder; and 3) called me "butter face." This is not said directly to me, but in loud conversations in the office that everyone overhears. Remarks like that don't impress anyone. I feel embarrassed for her, and just ignore her and her remarks.