Hi - This is completely unrelated to cycling, so I am not expecting anyone to spend too much time with advice, but....I just don't have anyone to talk to about this except you guys.
Here's my situation: I am only 31, and I don't seem to have any sex drive...and it scares me. My bf and I have been dating for about 10 months, and we haven't had sex in about 4 months. We live together, and neither of us is instigating sex.
I was married before current bf (I will abbreviate as CBF), and was treated somewhat cruelly by my ex-husband. Ex had terrible mood swings, and would not talk to me for a day - then the next day, when HE was in a better mood, he would want to be intimate - getting angry at me when I didn't want to comply. When I started dating CBF, there was the whole honeymoon stage, where we couldn't keep our hands off each other. I found I had no sex drive with the ex, but after it came back with CBF, I figured I was cured. Now - gone again.
I am on the Nuva Ring for birth control, and period regulation - and I asked my gyno if she thought that would be decreasing my libido - she said prob not. Now that 4 months have gone by, I wouldn't even know how to get a session going. I really love CBF. He is BY FAR, the best thing to happen to me, and BY FAR, he is my best friend. But....is that enough?
Is there something I can take to help? I have heard the whole "do you have a lot of stress" blah blah blah excuse - and yes I do, but I ALWAYS do. I am a perfectionist - so I am never completely at ease.

WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME? It seems like I am constantly bombarded with info that says we should be having sex 2-3 times a week - at least. Once a week is made to seem pretty bad, so the whole 4 month thing is making me feel pretty terrible. My life has taken a complete 180 since CBF - all positive. I quit smoking, drinking, going out late, and started snowboarding, bicycling, hiking. ALL GOOD THINGS. So why do I feel SOOOO crappy?

'sigh' It feels good to get this out, so....don't think it's going to make me have sex tonight, but...never-the-less.
Thanks for listening - whoever reads this.