This is going to be long so hang on...

Back story...I spent a whole day at two shops trying out the Onix Dama (with stock bars) and the Trek Madone. I knew the Dama didn't feel 100% comfortable and the woman who was helping me even said that it fit but was on the larger side of a good fit (she recommended the Madone). The Trek felt awesome. If there had been another 1.5 hours in the store's day I would have bought it and spent the time to get all the accessories and jazz added on. Decided I didn't want to rush that process and was going to call in the morning to reserve the Trek and then go back and pick it up.

Overnight I was thinking about it and felt that I didn't really ask good questions about the Dama's fit. The Dama has Ultegra SL which I could definitely appreciate over the Trek's majority 105. I liked the look of the Dama more as well. The prices were pretty close and I really felt the Dama was a better purchase.

Went to another LBS who suggested putting smaller handlebars on the Dama. He showed them to me, and definitely this would bring the reach in about 2 cm. They wouldn't do it without my putting a deposit to buy the bike because of the labor. I asked what would happen if they switched it out and I didn't like the feel. He said they'd just charge about $20 for labor which I felt was fair.

I ended up paying for the bike, went to run some errands, then came back to try it out. It felt pretty good. Here's where I made my mistake...I barely rode the thing! Maybe 10 minutes up and down the street. Declared it much improved (it was, but I guess not perfect) and proceeded into the whirlwind of picking out all things now necessary for the discount price they give you when you buy a bike. I do remember saying I still felt a little bit too far out and they mentioned adding shims, perhaps tilting the handlebars up, and maybe shortening the stem (it's now at 80mm and they thought it would get twitchy below that).

I brought the bike home. Haven't ridden it much because I don't have shoes yet but I've done A LOT of sitting on it and I'm pretty much convinced that as-is it is not the bike for me.

My boyfriend says I look fine on it and I just am not used to road geometry. He says once I get riding it will all be great and I'll be glad it has more aggressive geometry. But in my mind I remember what that Trek felt like and this is not as good.

I called the LBS today and made an appointment to go in Monday to get the shims in and tweak the stem. But the more I think about it, the more I'm scared I made the wrong decision. This is really depressing as I spent a lot of time researching and visiting shops.

The store had a nice "No refunds, store credit only" sign taped on the register (though this was never verbally told to me) but on their website it says 30 day guarantee or your money back. The Onix store does not sell Treks. I'm more than willing to pay a bit for their labor if this doesn't work out and will keep all the purchases (helmet, pedals, etc) I made from them (am also willing to pay back the percentage off they gave me because I had bought a bike from them) so this won't be a total wash for them.

So am I being totally insane? I know I should hang cool til Monday and see if the fit can be improved (I really want to keep this bike more than the Trek), but I feel that if it doesn't live up to what the Trek felt like, I am always going to feel like I made the wrong decision. It probably plays a little into it that I felt the Trek LBS was much more caring than the store I ended up getting the Onix from. I got a better fit for my test-ride Trek than for the Onix even after I bought the bike. The Onix store loves their tape measures and looking at my measurements to set up the bike but they don't seem interested about seeing me on the bike after they tweak it (this may be part of the reason I am freakin' out thinking the thing doesn't fit)

As I sit on the bike, I feel that if they shorten the stem to 60 mm my hands would be in a more comfortable place, but I've read if you have to go too short like that you're probably on the wrong frame and the handling degrades.

Help! Can the Onix fit be salvaged? Should I be thinking of ways to sell it so I can get the Trek because I feel that the LBS won't be taking it back? Hang it on the wall as expensive art! Egad!