oh no...............

[hellosunshine]

built a fortress,!impervious!independant,SINGLE AND HAPPY.


and then whatdoyouknow............MET A MAN ,BY MISTAKE......................



now,8 weeks on,need some statistics,when does the infatuation wear off?coz i usually wake up to reality within 19 days.AND IT HASNT KICKED IN YET!

[chickwhorips]

hmmm... sounds like me. i built up that same fort and a trojan horse came in. it usually took me less than 19 days to realize the trojan horse was just an imposter, but then BF got in and two years later he still has the horse inside the fort!

moral of story: may not be a bad thing. don't know statistics to help you, but i could make one up to make you feel better.

[pooks]

and two years later he still has the horse inside the fort!

Now that's what I call stamina.

[Bikingmomof3]

It has been 16 1/2 years for me, well 18 if you count when we first met.

[Python]

built a fortress,!impervious!independant,SINGLE AND HAPPY.


and then whatdoyouknow............MET A MAN ,BY MISTAKE......................



now,8 weeks on,need some statistics,when does the infatuation wear off?coz i usually wake up to reality within 19 days.AND IT HASNT KICKED IN YET!

Yep. Happened to me too. Just when I'd asserted my complete and total independence of the male species...I met a man, right when I least expected it. Seven years later we're still together - and happily married

[RoadRaven]

Oh... I know this...

I think it goes away at different times for different people... and for some it kind've lingers on...


I don't want mine to go, though, and don't expect it to...

I have been happily infatuated for 21 years


Relax and enjoy the ride... infatuation does not necessairly mean loss of reality or independance.

Enjoy it, whether is 9 weeks, 7 years, 21 years or unending...

Life is about living and we should live and love to the fullest

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Seven years so far, the head-over heels honeymoon just keeps getting better and better...


(or should I say heels over head???) Sorry!

[CyclChyk]

(or should I say heels over head???) Sorry!

LISA!!!!! Shame on you! And I thought those kinda things only happened in the movies!!

[hellosunshine]

Oh My God!!!!ok,am Holding On Tight!

[Melstar]

built a fortress,!impervious!independant,SINGLE AND HAPPY.


and then whatdoyouknow............MET A MAN ,BY MISTAKE......................



now,8 weeks on,need some statistics,when does the infatuation wear off?coz i usually wake up to reality within 19 days.AND IT HASNT KICKED IN YET!

Hey hello sunshin. stratford upon Avon... nice place.

Infatuation hasn't worn off yet?? I guees it Might be TRUE LOVE!!

[ClockworkOrange]

built a fortress,!impervious!independant,SINGLE AND HAPPY.


and then whatdoyouknow............MET A MAN ,BY MISTAKE......................



now,8 weeks on,need some statistics,when does the infatuation wear off?coz i usually wake up to reality within 19 days.AND IT HASNT KICKED IN YET!

Hi hellosunshine

That was no mistake, some might call it fate.................why should the infatuation wear off?

Just enjoy today, never mind about tomorrow.

Similar thing happened to me at the grand ol' age of fifty! Really did not want or need a guy, I was too independent...................6 years on and now living together and so very happy.

Lovely to hear your story.

Sally

[mudmucker]

when does the infatuation wear off?

Ah, 8 weeks. You are still in the stardust phase.

After noting some of the responses, this will seem fairly analytical. Just about all my relationships occurred when I wasn't looking or expecting. Aside from the obvious compatibility, my experience has been that the initial stardust phase lasts from 9 months to a year and a half or so. You know, you are immersed in clouds with silver linings, that feeling of really looking forward to seeing that person, still getting to know that person. There still is that level of politeness because maybe not all boundaries have been explored. To me, the real patterns of the relationship emerge after about a year or year and a half where some of the more complex issues/boundaries have been stretched and explored. If stardust hasn't fallen like lead at that time, then relationships seem to move on to a different kind of intimate level.

[DDH]

I think I am still infatuated at times with my DH. We have been married 17 years as of last Friday and together all in all, 21 years.

There are times that I want to kick him, but I am sure he might like to kick me sometimes too. All in all though, I don't know what I would do without him. He is my rock, my hero and the person I want to see and spend time with the most from day to day.
I think once you get past the he's not perfect stage, and start learning their faults and can still live with them, then it's a match!!