Looking Pregnant

[Trekhawk]

Well I think you look great! And you don't look like your 40 either!

I wish I weighed 126.

V.

Thanks V - but my climbing still sucks. Hmm lost some weight, have light bike, oh no I guess that means the problem is training. Note to self stop avoiding those big hills.

[SouthernBelle]

Trekhawk,

You have no reason to be embarassed but the stupid nurse does. It is amazingly rude to assume someone is pregnant.

You want me to tell her she's rude? I'll call her & tell her.

[Blueberry]

Trek-

Sorry to hear about the rude comment! Grrr....people should be so much more tactful. I've actually been called "sir" before, since I have short hair. I think the person only had a from behind view, as otherwise he would have seen the girls - they're kinda obvious. Still....I didn't wear jeans for a while....

[yellow]

I have my big long dresses for those days.

One day I was wearing one of these big long dresses and I got the question. I was flabbergasted and the gal was rightfully embarrassed. That evening I threw the dress in the garbage and have never worn anything like that in public since!

I think it was Dave Barry that said something like "DO NOT ask a woman if she's pregnant unless you see the baby coming out AT THAT MOMENT."

[Kitsune06]

No kidding. God.
And being skinny makes it WORSE. When I was about 108# and SKINNY, skinny, like see-my-ribs-more-than-you-can-now skinny, it was so bad that every time I was premenstrual, I bloated so noticeably I was asked a couple of times, and even when my IBS kicked up REALLY bad, I was asked once. EMBARRASSING. People think that when you're just married, every time you start to have to put on your 'fat' or 'bloated' jeans, you're pregnant.

...and I've gotten the 'sir' thing before. Gruh. Even worse: I've been shopping and overheard a little girl arguing with her mom over whether or not I'm a boy.
Worse: the little girl difinitively decided that yes, I most definitely was. "She doesn't have boobies." She was like 5, she doesn't have to CARE whether or not I have boobies! GEEZ!

[Nanci]

Oh, my daughter was at the mall with her baby, only her GF was holding the baby, and a clerk asked Kelly if she was the little brother....(Short hair, likes to wear baggy clothes sometimes) http://home.alltel.net/nlevake/Kelly/kelly.htm

[Kitsune06]

*cringe* geez, Nanci, that's a hard one to top. That clerk must've wanted to die.

[pooks]

Once my sister and I were in a shop and the clerk asked if she was my mother.

I have friends who had babies at the age of 41, and another friend who was prematurely grey at 41. One friend and baby went with grey-haired friend to shop, and they thought the gray-haired friend was the grandmother.

However, sometimes people now ask my sister and I which one is older. Since she's 8 years older, I am the one who gets to simmer. Grrrr.

[Thistle]

God people can be so rude Trekhawk. I mean at 126lbs, I cant imagine you even look pregnant!

I am overweight and have been asked, and it doesnt feel good The woman where i buy my fruit and vegies asked one day and i changed shops - i've never been back. I think it's such a personal question that unless a woman (who is obviously, unmistakably pregnant) brings up the topic of her pregnancy, i wont even ask at 9 months! Guess i'm a bit oversensitive

But then I try to tell myself that it's always women and maybe they love babies and just want to share the joy

[Trekhawk]

Thanks girls - my belly bulge and I are feeling much happier today.

[KnottedYet]

I AM GUILTY!!!! GUILTY, I TELL YOU!!!!!

I asked a woman when she was due, and she wasn't preggers.

I felt AWFUL, and I'm sure she did, too.

I never ask now, even my co-workers. Either they tell me, or I don't know, because I ain't askin' unless the woman looks 12 months pregnant or the baby is on the way out.

(I've been called "sir" or "son" or "boy" on a regular basis for the last 30 years. Such is life. So I really do try to be careful when I speak to others.)

[Derf]

You are only 126 lbs? I can't believe she asked you that. I never ask anyone for fear of being wrong. People probably think I'm rude for not asking about when the baby is due. Lady here at work looks pregnant, but no way I was going to ask. Very relieved when we were in elevator and she says, "I can hardly wait until the baby is born." Whew, then I could ask her about it.

[wannaduacentury]

I have a tummy pooch and been asked lots of times.Since I am fixed, I just politely tell them so and then they ask, Don't you want more? I say sure I do, but we almost died bringing her into the world, so NO!!
But I did it someone else too-- It was after christmas and I saw a lady looking like she's 7 months along. I politely asked her if she was and she said no. Too many Christmas goodies, said she was going on a diet.

[latelatebloomer]

Nurse with a deathwish, if you ask me. Trekdarling, I've seen several pictures of you, and I just can't figure what she was thinking. In fact, I just told my husband your story (and he's seen your pics, too) and if you could see his incredulous face right now, you'd laugh and laugh.*

On yer bike, mate, and don't give it another thought.

* He said it was like someone asking HIM if he was preggers, it's that silly.

[crazybikinchic]

yesterday, I was at work and my boss and I were talking about children. I have a daughter that passed away about 5 years ago. My boss up and asked why I didn't go to the doctor and get checked since I wasn't getting pregnant. It's been a while since someone has frowned on my decision to not have another child (there is a 1 in 4 chance of my children having the same thing my daughter did and my husband has had kidney issues, a transplant, that are passed to the boys). I had to tell her H#** no, that I would not put another child through that. She was embarrassed and thought that she hurt my feelings.