Moving forward....

[Karma007]

Here I go, asking the opinion of my friends regarding totally non-bicycle stuff. I'm just curious as to what you think- To make a long story (it goes back 14 years) not so long, bf proposed last night, and I accepted! My daughter is 15 and lives nearby with her father. Any tips on breaking the news? Girl and I have had a long, complicated year, and I don't want to freak her out too much.

[Becky]

Congratulations on your engagement!

[Zen]

Not enough information to speculate.

[Crankin]

Congratulations, but need more info to get a sense of why you think this will freak her out. Will it affect her living situation? What kind of issues have there been? I know you might not want to "share," but it's hard to speculate.
She will probably be upset, no matter what. Kids have a certain schema in their minds of what a parent is, and when reality changes that, it's hard for them to assimilate the changes.

[Karma007]

Knowing girl, she'll probably be happy about it. There's just been a lot of change this year. I just figure I'mm be direct, and not treat her like a child. She'll appreciate the honesty.

[sgtiger]

Knowing girl, she'll probably be happy about it. There's just been a lot of change this year. I just figure I'mm be direct, and not treat her like a child. She'll appreciate the honesty.

Looks like you answered your own question.

[shootingstar]

Best of luck with the wedding day.

If your daughter already has good relationships with each of her birth parents, she will want to keep it that way. At an age where there's other things she's pursuing in understanding/developing herself, outside of parents.