Its over . . . now I am riding solo

[Trek420]

For those that were introduced to riding my a ex-significant other, how did you go forward?

Welcome to TE. Yours is like the $0.50 tour of my recent life the last few years. Cycling seems like such an individual sport, just get on the bike and ride, right? But it's a team sport even on just a couple level; cooking the recovery meal, getting the bike on the roof (I'm 5' nuthin) ... so when my DPITA dumped me it was a loss and very hard to keep riding.

But I did.

Keep reading and posting here, the support is great and what I've learned here enabled me to ride further and better. Find a club, if there is a cause you care deeply about train for and do a charity ride (my DPITA didn't think I could do the AIDS ride, I did 4 of 'em so there, take that. Neener neener neener brphttttpt )

You don't say where you are one of the great things about this board is some of us actually get out and ride together.

That's what I figured at the time; I'm just going to get out there and ride, while doing so I meet new people, maybe some of them will be single , but that's not the point I'm doing good on a charity ride so I'll meet people who care about issues that I do. One thing I find is people get into cycling for a number of reasons; fitness, save a buck on gas, the challenge ... but you stay for the people and the food

Enjoy the new community, ride your bike and be fabulous. Somewhere out there when you least expect it and are not even looking is the biker dude for you. Meanwhile, just get out there and ride. There's lots of bike legs to oggle too so keep riding .

[fastdogs]

I ride alone all the time. I have a wonderful husband, but as far as he's concerned- if it's nice enough to ride, it's nice enough to play golf. So he's willing to keep an eye on our son so I can ride, but I'm still alone. But I first started riding alone anyway. It is certainly nice when I do have someone to ride with, and there are groups that meet to ride around here, I just don't at this time consider myself good enough to keep up, and I don't want to hold people back.
The advantage to riding by yourself is you can do it whenever it's convenient to you, you don't need to schedule anything.
vickie

[Trek420]

The advantage to riding by yourself is you can do it whenever it's convenient to you, you don't need to schedule anything.
vickie

And so it's time to revisit a thread I started back in the day when I was single:

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showthread.php?t=2534

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Biking does not have to be connected to finding romance....biking is a wonderful thing in itself, no matter whether you ride alone, with a pal, or with a significant other. Biking is just plain GOOD no matter how you do it.
Bike because it is healthy and makes you feel good both physically and spiritually. Bike for you, and life will be better in many unexpected ways.

[SouthernBelle]

Next nice day off stick some food, drink and a good book in your backpack and head out on a ride in a direction you've never been before. Stop if you get tired or hungry or see something neat. Take a nap under a tree. Sing like an idiot. Practice riding hands-free. Whistle at a cute guy. Go fast. Go slow.

[cattygrrl]

Biking does not have to be connected to finding romance....biking is a wonderful thing in itself, no matter whether you ride alone, with a pal, or with a significant other. Biking is just plain GOOD no matter how you do it.
Bike because it is healthy and makes you feel good both physically and spiritually. Bike for you, and life will be better in many unexpected ways.

Very good points from BleeckerSt_Girl! If, somehow, you find a new s/o while doing something you both enjoy, though, it seems even better!

[jesvetmed]

Southern Belle: I LOVE how you think! This is my nature -- it's why I don't get much accomplished on my days off!

Blue: Welcome, and sorry about your new status as "single". But, you will soon find that you'll be just fine. You'll actually be better. Keep riding, be selfish.... And everyone is right -- this is a great group full of encouragement, kind words and advice. And sometimes just good for a roll-on-the-floor-laugh.

[chicago]

Very good points from BleeckerSt_Girl! If, somehow, you find a new s/o while doing something you both enjoy, though, it seems even better!

If I were to do it all over again, I would not waste the time I did dating guys who did not like the same things I did. My current boyfriend is a blessing. We love so much of the same things, and it's great. We both love to run, bike, go to the gym, etc, etc...and we are both so open to trying any new sport. It's so much nicer having a boyfriend who hangs with you... at least that's my feelings. I just told my Mom the other day "I think Jimmy is the first guy I dated that actually likes hanging with me", LOL!! Sad that at 45yo I finally figured out what's important in a guy and what makes a relationship fun

That's just my .02