words that make you grit your teeth

[ilima]

Along the lines of "Miss Amanda" one of my pet peeves are folks that go by Dr. Firstname, like Dr. Phil.

I find it a strange mix of pseudo-familiarity and also wanting to maintain a position of superiority. One or the other, please: Dr. Lastname OR Firstname only.

[Aggie_Ama]

Along the lines of "Miss Amanda" one of my pet peeves are folks that go by Dr. Firstname, like Dr. Phil.

I find it a strange mix of pseudo-familiarity and also wanting to maintain a position of superiority. One or the other, please: Dr. Lastname OR Firstname only.

My college roommate is a second year resident, I call her Dr. Barb. I do not think she introduces herself to patients that way it is just us.

[Zen]

I always thought Miss (insert first name here) was a southern thing.
I use it with people I know.

[tc1]

This has cropped up at work, because we historically refer to training days as orientation days. So people will speak of being orientated to something.

Something even worse is a pseudo-technical term, "kicked in". Arrg! What does that mean? Usually referred to something starting. Picked up is a technical term that is OK.

Or, "hike" for any kind of rate or price increase.

Or, the trend of computer speak to use hard-hitting action verbs to refer to something that is really only happening at the software level- fragged, crashed, etc.

Nucular for nuclear makes sense to me, it seems a regional thing -much easier to say. Greezy for greasy drives me round the bend.

I could go on, but I better stop.

[OakLeaf]

When people call me Miss Amanda I want to slap them though.

I had a few older, male clients who called me Miss Susan. I thought it was rather endearing, actually

[Jolt]

I changed my last name but to hold onto my maiden name I got rid of my middle name (hated it anyway) and now my maiden name is legally my middle name. I like it and I like being a Mrs.

My husband and I are team and I feel like having the same last name is a way of being a team. Others do not and that is okay with me. I rarely miss my maiden name, probably just a couple times in 5 years since I ditched it. I still am very proud to be a member of my family and proud of their name.

That's a cool idea--using your maiden name as a middle name. Don't some Hispanic cultures actually use the maiden name as a second middle name? That also makes a lot of sense. Your point about having the same last name being a way to express being a team was well said--that's how I feel about it as well. so when I eventually get married I will have no issue with taking his last name but may keep my maiden name as a middle name to keep that part of my identity at the same time. That would also (hopefully) cause less confusion professionally.

[Crankin]

Jolt, that practice is very common right here in New England. I dropped my middle name when I got married and have always used my maiden name as my middle name. I don't use a hyphen, since it would be a mouthful, but I always sign my name with both last names. It's my legal name.
Both of my sons have my maiden name as their middle name. They hated it when they were little, in AZ, but as soon as we moved here and more than half of their friends had hyphenated last names, they never said another word!
My husband felt strongly about me changing my name when we got married. It's one of the few things we ever disagreed on, and I gave in. Of course, now, he could care less and I did contemplate dropping his name, but I didn't want the bother of doing it legally.
I also hate the "hon," sweetie, etc. I know it's southern, but I find it degrading.

[Aggie_Ama]

My mom did that same thing when she got married. The main reason was her mother was declared legally blind and thus unable to drive. My mother would often run errands and write checks off her mom's account so it was easier to have the last name as her middle name. Oddly they both have the same first name so it looked like the same person.

Another reason I did it is my Pawpaw died 3 weeks prior to my wedding. My maiden was his last name and I desperately wanted to hold onto a little piece of him. I still want that and I have it on my drivers license. I sign my name Amanda _. ________. It (maiden name) is a horrible German mess of a name to spell so I don't write it out or hyphenate. Plus the hyphenated names confused me when I was younger and put a dislike of them in my brain forever.