grief takes a physical toll

[redrhodie]

My 17 year old kitty Julio passed away Sat. He had a stroke last Wed, and the last few days of his life were pretty intense as he fought like a boxer in an all out brawl. After he slipped into a coma, I decided it was time for him to stop fighting. He was the most beautiful, funny, delightfully terrible being I've ever known, and he made every day joyous for me. Anyone who has ever had a gray kitty will understand this, he was a piece of work.

The past couple of days I felt okay, but today it's hit me hard that he's gone. I'm absolutely wiped out. I have no energy. I feel too weak to ride, and an all over achiness. I'm probably a little dehydrated from crying, so that's probably part of it.

I'm going to attempt to go to Pilates class this afternoon, and hope that helps me feel better. I know only time will help, but I don't want to let this get me too much. He hated to see me sad. He took as good care of me as I did of him. He gave me a really good life.

[Zen]

I am so sorry, I can feel your pain from here.
Julio had a good, long kitty life with you.
Don't push yourself to go out, the grief will subside but the good memories are forever.

[teawoman]

Aww...sorry about your kitty.

And grief is *exhausting*. Be kind to yourself and do what you can. It does take awhile.

<--likes the gray ones too

[Pedal Wench]

So sorry. Losing a kitty is never easy.

I would listen to your body, and give it time to heal. So sorry.

[Veronica]

Losing someone you love hurts. Pets are someone in my world. It takes time to get through the hurt. It's an emotional injury and it's okay to feel miserable.

V.

[mimitabby]

sorry you lost your kitty. That's one of the worst things about cats. They just don't have a long enough life span!

[Blueberry]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear about your dear kitty Sometimes it just doesn't seem fair that they have to leave us so soon. Be gentle with yourself, and one day the grief will begin to fade and leave behind the happy memories. Until then, take care. V is right - it really is OK to let yourself feel miserable for a while.

Hugs,

CA

[han-grrl]

I am so sorry. the women here are completely understanding. Last year when my cat passed away, they were so very comforting. it was nice knowing i wasn't alone. lots of love.

[sbctwin]

{{{{{redrhodie}}}}} Sorry to hear of Julio's going to rainbow bridge. Kallie, Katrina and Toby (my furbabies) will welcome him....

[LBTC]

RR - I'm so sorry for your loss. I've asked my special fur babies at the rainbow bridge to welcome him and show him around.

Please let yourself grieve. It's so very important to give yourself time to get through this. Sure, he loved to see you happy, but he wouldn't want you to hurt yourself just to please him. Pretending that we're not hurting from grief and just "getting on with life" can hurt as much as getting back in the saddle and training hard can when we aren't well enough healed from an injury, or well enough recovered from over training.

Spend time remembering him, give yourself over to the tears, find a wonderful way to memorialize him. At some point you will feel that lump in your throat turn into a warm spot in your heart and you'll laugh when you think of him again. It's different for everyone so don't try to rush through it.

And think of butterflies. I'm sending you lots of wonderful ones to calm your heart, heal your body, and soothe your mind.

Hugs, too,
~T~