Newbie question.

I just got my bike. I have to take the front wheel off to take it anywhere in my car. There isn't a bike rack that I can use with my car. It's a VW bug with a sun roof and with turbo. No roof, no hitch, no trunk rack will work. Luckily though, my bike does fit in the back of my car if I remove the front wheel.

I've removed the wheel twice. It's really hard to get it past the brake. Really hard. Yes, I did use the release but it has to be forced. The tire is probably 1/4 inch bigger than the brake opening.

Tonight, the brakes and wheel weren't working after I put the tire back on. The brake was dragging terribly. My daughter's boyfriend helped me fix it but he said I'm gonna wreck my brakes forcing them apart as much as I am by removing the wheel. He said wheels aren't made to be taken on and off all the time.

Haven't a clue what to do. Should I get a smaller tire width? It's got 28s on it now. Or not pump the tires up to 120 - if there's less air, they would be more flexible? Is there any way to take the wheel off and not hurt the brakes? Or is it okay to force them apart?