I feel much the same way jobob does. Unless someone says "I knew this person and I'm grieving" or "here are the specific lessons learned" the posts come off as hand wringing. Having grown up the product of overly cautious parents, I learned fear at an early age -- fear of every little tiny thing that could possible cause me harm. My parents didn't teach me to be level-headed and go about my business with commonsense. They taught me to freeze up and to be afraid to try new things because “our precious little girl could be hurt.” I suffer today from these ingrained lessons. It is sheer stubbornness that has gotten me where I am today. I see an awful lot of behavior on this forum that appears to come from the same hand wringing parental skills (while I rarely see it in men) – and such posts without a stated point don’t help these women.

Posts honoring the rider, or requesting help in the grieving process, or providing useful thoughts to prevent further occurrences are fine, but I don’t see the benefits of the post when none of the above is specifically stated. Dita, I know you meant well and I know you are take an active role in helping folks learn safety skills, so I think you understand what I mean.

My passion is that we all learn the skills to fly -- not the fear.