It's hard to answer this without knowing what your price range is (ridiculously expensive means different things to different people). And I'm not sure how to address the "masculine" complaint.

One thing: eyewear doesn't just protect your eyes from the sun; it also protects your eyes from the ground when you biff. I don't know if you're a roadie or a MTBer, but either way, at some point you're going to go face first into the ground, or a shrapnel-like bit of ground is going to fly straight at your face. This is a good reason to have swap-out lenses, so that you're never tempted to go without sunglasses in the evening.

Anyway, given that eyewear is about more than sun damage, one reason the styles may look "masculine" to you is that they cover so much of your eye area. That's by design, to protect your eyes. Better to look dorky than to damage your cornea, I always say!

I just got the rudy project kerosene.
It's definitely the right fit for my face -- it covers all of my eye area without touching my skin. I got the racing red for variable light conditions, with a darker brown lens for full-time sun. I'm planning on going back for clear, too. Anyway, that's one model you might try. It doesn't cover nearly enough of my husband's face, but is just right for me.

If you can find a really good sports eyewear store, that can make a huge difference. I visited Tom's Sportique Eyewear in Boulder, CO several times before deciding on this pair. The owner was extremely knowledgeable, and he wasn't afraid to tell me what he thought about the fit from a safety and ventilation standpoint, even if I thought they looked dorky. In the end, though, I really like the ones I got.