Quote Originally Posted by Grog
Maybe another possibility...

Go with her on recovery rides and force yourself to ride her pace so you won't go too hard.

Go riding alone, do something hard - like hill reps - before you meet with her. You'll be more laid back... I do that sometimes: I send my partner on a tough hill ride for about an hour and then he picks me up at our place, he's happy with the hills and a bit tired, so we can ride together and I actually get to draft him towards the end.

THESE are good points too. When riding with my hubby on singles a common (silent) complaint I had was that when I could catch up to him, I couldn't sustain that speed and so I would start falling behind again(and again and again). Hey, at least your friend CAN draft. I can't, I see out of only 1 eye at a time and have NO depth perception.