Cheri, I didn't think you pained a bad picture about your SO and I didn't take it that way either. All i am saying is that some guys don't feel any discomfort on their bikes and they unintentionally tend to assume that women' should not either. My bf is also supportive and he was the one to get me into cycling, however when I tell him i need a 4th saddle he doesn't really understand my problem with the other three