There are plenty of WSD bikes out there. Ok, maybe not "plenty", but many companies make them: Trek, Giant, Orbea, Cannondale... I'm 5'3" and ride a 49cm Airborne Wasp frame. Unfortunately, they don't make Airborne frames any more; they were great bikes.

Anyway, don't settle for a bike that doesn't fit you. You are spending lots of money on a bike and you want it to fit; if a bike store doesn't have bikes that fit you, have them order it, or move on.

And yes, the bike scene almost everywhere is male-saturated. Some males will be patronizing, or ignore you, or whatever. On the other hand, others will be very nice, precisely because you are a woman. Try to find the nice ones - they do exist!