Quote Originally Posted by latelatebloomer
I also don't love riding with my DH (yet) - he tries not to push me, but sometimes he "nudges" and I don't want nudging. He's much fitter than I am, so when we ride, I am working my butt off, fitter than I've ever been, and STILL lagging while he's flitting off ahead. I really need my ride to be about having a feeling of accomplishment, not another situation in my life where I'm sure I'm not good enough.

I ride only with dh and he's pretty great about the difference in our fitness but sometimes I try to make him do the whole ride in his biggest gear (including hills) just so he's on par with me. Another thing we do is drafting - he rides faster that way and gets a better workout, and I can ease up a bit when it's windy etc. Puts us on more of an even keel...

I want you know that there is hope... I only started riding at the end of March and the improvement I've made riding about 100k a week is amazing. Dh and I are pretty well even on the flats now and I am MUCH better doing the hills than I was two months ago. Once you start to see some improvement, you get really motivated!

barb