Thank you again everyone. I feel a little less silly now. We're riding together again some night this week. I think I'll just start getting ready sooner and tell him I'll meet him at the trailhead. I really really really hate being cranky at the start of every ride with him and I feel bad for him because he's cheerful and chipper and I'm snarling.

I don't think I could tackle a group ride with any but my most patient and loving friends. Through some silly planning I have a mountain bike.. which I ride on pavement... big nobbies on pavement. out of shape rider. I average about 10 mph every ride. It's a sad sight to see but I do have fun I was really frustrated for awhile but I gave up on caring about speed and am just having fun and realizing it's going to be a whole new fun ball game when I change to slicks and even crazier more wonderful when I can get a road bike though lord knows that's quite a ways out in the future. and dang won't it be easier to eat up the miles then