Quote Originally Posted by Grog
BF and I have been talking about a tandem since we first rode together. He's a much faster rider than me but we're nearly the same size: he's about 2 inches and 20 pounds heavier than I am, and we can use the same bikes (with adjustments).

So I was hoping that we could get a tandem where we could alternate positions. Did anyone ever try that? He's a great rider to draft from and I wouldn't have an issue riding in the back, but I'd also like to see the road sometimes, and to try captaining too.

Also another question: how did you guys who tandem with your life-partner get started? How did it impact your couple?
My hubby is 3" taller than me, and about 40 lbs heavier. I CANNOT manage this bike from the front position - it is too heavy for me. But, that is just my situation - you might be able to make it work for you.

Beware that tandems are affectionately known as "divorce machines". I know people who have said there is no way they could ride tandem with their mate. We have a great time together, BUT it has tested our relationship on more than one occasion! There have been threats of divorce, swearing, tears, etc.

We raced our MTB tandem one year before we were married. Hubby was an expert racer and I was a beginner. He went out way harder than I could manage to make up for me, and I went way harder than I should have to try and keep up. The BEST feeling, was finishing the race, turning to each other, and giving each other a hug. I married him anyway, and we've had so many great tandem adventures since then (oh, and we won the race ).

So, I guess my advice in a nutshell, is be prepared! A good day is a great day, and a bad day can turn ugly - even for the healthiest of relationships!

SheFly