2 years ago me and the HB left the US as expats for Europe. Of course, did not know the language and culture and I will admit it's been very hard at times, but it was not til we got out there and learned and met people that we started to integrate. All these countries have extensive expat communities as well where you can meet friends from all over, in the same boat as you. Esp expats with kids, which is why many are female based as many of the "trailing spouses" as they call it are female (in my case the tables were turned).

So honestly I can't fully empathize with a woe is me when you move somewhere because you have to be ready to work hard when you get there. If you think everyone is just going to speak english to you and this new country will be just like the old one, I would question whether you thought it through. What I can empathize with is that she did not realize the devastating effect of it's "all about Lance" would have on her, and with Lance probably always gone, you start to make your own life and your 2 lives appear to drift apart.

There are ways to fix and manage it but usually it's realized once it's too late.