That's why I take over the lane at those 4 ways. Car in front of me (I don't pass on the right at these stops) car behind me, but no-one beside me. I move my buns back over to the shoulder once I'm through the intersection. No skin off the car driver's nose because I'm not cutting in line, and they seem to understand my intentions better if I'm actually IN the lane. Probably cuz they can see me better. And they can check out my lovely tushie....

Of course, this only works where the car traffic is light enough that you can get into the lane in the first place.

I already posted this book, but it's worth repeating: Effective Cycling by John Forester. Kinda grumpy and anti-car, but has some good points.