my hubby would always "stay with me" on centuries...on this last one we did i told him to "ride his ride...and i will not be too far behind!!!" and he did it was fun for both of us and i was only 20 minutes behind!

if it is just the two of us he will stay with me but in groups we have made a deal that we will go our own pace so the other does not feel any guilt or pressure. i have actually improved so much i am gaining on him we have met some great people that we can now call and hook up with if the other is busy or on an off day...i have been trying to commit to commuting to work by bike which racks up my miles but leaves him home and mopping (he works from home) so now he has some new riding buddies to eliminate the lack of miles!

just have him (or someone) show you the joys of tire changing and practice a few...but i find more often than not...if you need help in an organized ride it is there before you have a chance to loose your composure

go for it and bring home some good stories...if he is anything like my man he will love the fact that you did not let his unfortunate work schedule spoil your day!!!