Shoulder....Venting

[Crankin]

To play devil's advocate, I might be, after the initial being angry, glad they did this. It means they don't have the skills to help you and they are being honest. Better than messing you up, even more, which we know can happen. It doesn't mean there isn't someone who could help, but s/he might be far away.
On my own little level, I have had to do this a few times. Usually, it's just to the intake person, but sometimes I am not the right therapist for someone or someone's family member.

[Catrin]

True, I'm NOT upset and for that very reason. I guess that this really struck home on just how bad my shoulders are. I've been trying to fool myself and ignore pain, especially for the arthritic shoulder. It's sobering when they tell you it's so bad that all they can do is to replace it when it further deteriorates. I am far from pressing for surgery for either of them, from what I've been told it's dicey to replace a shoulder for someone as young as I who still wants to be active, and I can tolerate it's current condition for a very long time (hopefully). What I'm saying was that this was a wake-up call. The surgeon who turned me down has 40+ years of experience and specializes in shoulders...(but he doesn't do replacements). I DO want to find someone closer to me who is qualified to deal with both...for sure.

[Crankin]

I don't blame you in not wanting the surgery, until it's absolutely necessary. But why would it be a contraindication for an active person? Usually they like that. And, being younger.