Right! My DH was encouraged to race when DS was racing, but he never wanted to do that. We ride together at a slightly moderated pace for him, but there are many times he is just as complaining as me. When we do long rides without others, we are not going fast. Part of it is he has been riding more than me recently. Not longer rides, but very short ones where he goes fast. I am glad we ride together, but I think I am just mad at myself for being lazy. I wish I had started riding in my 20s or 30s.