Quote Originally Posted by Crankin View Post
The thing is, about the anger and riding fast, I would never ride fast or push myself if I didn't ride with DH. I can push myself for short intervals, at the most.
Ditto ditto ditto! My DH is a gifted rider. I always tell him that if he'd really been into it as a young man, he could possibly have been a competitive racer. He's the polka-dot jersey guy, not a sprinter, but an amazing hill climber. He used to routinely beat guys 20-30 years younger up the climbs when we were in a club and did weekend club rides. At age 62, he hasn't slowed down much at all, and trying to stay with him, for me, is an exercise in frustration. So either I draft off him and he goes a bit slower than he'd like to, or, more often, he rides his pace and loops back to find me when he's gotten too far ahead.

I guess it's frustrating for him as well since he'd love for me to be able to stay with him, but sometimes I think he's not as understanding as he could be. Men and women are different physiologically, and even barring that, we all have different abilities in various exercise realms.

Like you, I just want to keep on riding my ride as long as I am physically able. And I don't want to beat myself up if I am slower than someone else (man or woman). Like you too, I am a bit more competitive than I should be, always have been, and that is part of the frustration. If I didn't care, it wouldn't matter, and I'd just not worry about it. Right?