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[OakLeaf]

NY, that stinks.

Maybe a good pair of noise cancelling headphones for while you're awake, and earplugs to sleep? Not ideal for sure, but it might help you get some peace.

I wouldn't rule out approaching the neighbor, though. Rules on paper have a whole different emotional vibe than being alerted to the fact that he's disturbing another human being that he can see and talk to.

[emily_in_nc]

I wouldn't rule out approaching the neighbor, though. Rules on paper have a whole different emotional vibe than being alerted to the fact that he's disturbing another human being that he can see and talk to.

This is true. When we lived in a carpeted apartment on the third floor, we were mortified when our downstairs neighbor came and knocked on our door one night to tell us that we were being too loud. We were rolling our (small) dog's ball down the hall for her to retrieve, and I guess her running back and forth was amplified, even through carpet and padding, to sound like a thundering herd of elephants down below.

We had NO idea and felt bad! We never played with her in the apartment again.

Now, your upstairs neighbor may well be an AZZhole who could care less, AND I don't know if I'd ever have the guts to confront him, but it if you do, it might turn out that he is more amenable than you think. He may well have no idea, as we didn't, that his footsteps are causing such a cacophany below.

I hate apartments and condos for this reason. We have lived on the bottom floor and the top floor, and neither are ideal. On the bottom, we were constantly bombarded by noise from above, and on the top, we had to worry and be paranoid about making too much noise just living our lives. Never again.

Good luck NY -- I really do feel for you!

[shootingstar]

I would at least talk to the neighbour upstairs, NYbiker. And he's a new neighbour. He may not know.

I've lived in my present condo over the past 5 yrs.: only...5 times, seems to work out, once per year. I've asked the residents upstairs to turn down their music -which only occurred in evening. It stopped in 15 min. Yes, I saw a party going on... I was polite in my request.

In Vancouver for 8 yrs., we occasionally heard some rolling noise...it might have been dog and toy. Meaning several times per year.

In Toronto, in a condo for 14 yrs., I did have a problem with someone that had their treadmill upstairs over my bedroom. It started only in the final yr. when I had my place before I moved to Vancouver.

I am fortunate to live in a building configuration where there are only 3 units per floor. So I'm never bothered by any noise (and rarely hear noise) from neighbours on my floor.

Some jurisdictions allows wood frame in the condo highrise structure..that makes a huge difference vs. buildings that are more concrete based which latter will deaden abit more floor noise.

[Pax]

Pulse - Orlando. I am utterly heartbroken. You'd think, after being out for almost 40 years, I'd be used to being hated, be used to having people wish harm on me and mine. But it never gets easier.

[Catrin]

I'm just about speechless regarding this terrible event, so heartbreaking that I can't even watch the news any more on this right now. So...terrible.

I get that there are those who will never agree with us - and that unfortunate young man who entered the club last night wasn't the only one in this country with that level of hatred of us. This graphic says it all...

[shootingstar]

What it is unpleasant (to me), are media reports and some people saying it is an act of terrorism. It is not religious based. It's just simply hatred and homophobic. The father of the shooter emphasized this and knew how mentally unstable his son was. It is that simple. And people worldwide really need to focus on this. The act has nothing to do with terrorism. (which I associate with political motivations. It's disappointing how the word "terrorism" has become twisted in its use.)

[shootingstar]

2 days, a friend and I chatted up with a Canadian light-skinned black guy at a sushi place, who had just returned from Los Angeles living there for past 18 yrs. He was university educated, involved in screenwriting, directing and teaching writing at a college.

He was so thankful to return to Canada: he hated the easy access to guns because of U.S.' gun laws compared to Canada. (This wasn't the only reason why he was glad to return to Canada.)