Dear So and So

[shootingstar]

Dear Girls at Work,

It was really fun to see the pics of your outing last night that you posted. But it makes me wonder if none of you like me, since I wasn't asked nor included. To be fair, I did used to work every Friday through Sunday, and everyone at work knows I work weekends. But some of you who went now know I work every other Friday. I wish I knew what people didn't like about me. It makes me sad.

Hey, Vegan either ask about it and see if an extra person is ok for next outing. But be prepared for them not to answer openly.
Otherwise don't sweat it. I've worked for over 9 different employers over past 3 decades.....after all that I didn't keep any friends. It doesn't help because I've lived in 3 different provinces over the years. Some workplaces I never went out of my way to socialize after work. I personally find it easier for reducing workplace / personal conflicts.

I do have 1 friend where she and I work currently for same employer but thankfully she and I work in totally different depts. where our workpaths don't cross. I've wondered why she doesn't invite me to any local social functions with her local personal friends that she's pals for past few decades. They're around the same age as I or older.

And these other friends of hers, also have similar backgrounds like her and I: born in Canada, Chinese background and university educated, work hard in their careers, etc.

So I have resigned to the thought, I'm "special" to her. I don't what for...except she and I can talk about work stuff and know the personalities of certain employees, talk about cycling (because her paid job involves liveable/cycleable neighbourhoods). I dunno. Or maybe because I don't golf (like these other friends which she does golfing vacations, etc.)

So we all have different friends for different facets of ourselves. And for whatever reasons, it's perceived certain friends don't mix with others. I tried this once for a housewarming party. The vibe didn't work among 4 different close friends that I acquired from different points in my life. Oh well.