Younger woman bossing me around

[Jolt]

If my boss respects me I will typically keep her in the loop about what is going on. Let her know I'm going to take a shot at fixing the situation, but wanted to give her a heads up about it. Nothing for the boss to fix, just awareness that I'm trying to correct a situation, and if I'm not successful she'll already be aware and ready to take the correction to the next level.

As for the face to face with the co-worker, I'd go neutral but firm. I've had annoying coworkers in the past who, when confronted, seemed genuinely perplexed they were being perceived that way, good long talk about it cleared the air. On the flip side, I have a young coworker right now who is rude and annoying and is very content being that way. Our conversation about the way she interacts with me only served to scare her so now she stays away from me and doesn't interact. Win win!

I would definitely try speaking with her in private first about your concerns…she may have no idea how she is coming across and it is always more constructive to address these kinds of issues directly with the person involved before bringing it to the boss etc. Give her the chance to fix things before you report it to anyone else and potentially get her into trouble for something she may not even realize is a problem.

[Crankin]

I was once told that my "demeanor" let people know not to f*ck with me. But, I don't let it seep into my language or tone, like I used to, when I was younger. It's more non-verbal. Both of parents overreacted in their speech/tone and I learned how not to be from them! They weren't mean or tough, I think it was more a cultural expression of their feelings.

[jamesrx200]

I will confront her. My motto is if you are good to me, then I will be good to you too. If you cant respect me, then I wont respect you, enough said.