Younger woman bossing me around

[shootingstar]

Thx for advice so far and more advice for more is helpful.

This already has happened twice and this type of situation happens in group meetings where clearly she's trying to exercise control but she likes to do it on me directly by instructing me in a loud voice with assertiveness. She is a team lead without direct reports.

I know the game but I have learned in previous jobs as a manager, to step back and let expert staff do their jobs with general outcomes, etc. I myself have been criticized for sounding too angry, impatient when in fact, I was overly charged with ideas and energy. I have never been criticized for holding back staff or not allowing them to express their best positive personality and skill set. I learned quickly that having very bright staff who were also great workers, customer service oriented AND personality magnets for clients, was a huge plus for the dept. Let staff shine.

My partner believes that after speaking her, I should speak to my boss (her boss also), otherwise things could really go downhill with her badmouthing me. It still could, but it would be damage control or realignment of certain behaviours.