Well, my 2 DILs are 28 and 36. One had a very non-traditional upbringing (lived in a commune for 4 years), with 2 weird parents. She is actually pretty traditional, but very aware of feminism. The younger one lived with 2 fighting parents, 4 sibs, they were poor, until the parents divorced. Her mom went back tos school, got a college degree in her late 40s and is a psych nurse now. I'd say she is traditional, but she *was* a Marine, then went to school to be an RN. She's tough, but wants to be home with her kids, although she will probably work part time, to keep her skills up. Her end goal is to get a master's to be a nurse-midwife. They are both pregnant and it will be interesting to see what they do. The older ones need the money more, as they have a home, and need at least some of her income. My younger son is in school, living off of the GI bill and has investments that most 30 year olds don't have. She will not have to work, whether he goes back active duty military as an officer or goes into his field of economics. I think she will, at least part time. I feel like the older one is more aware of the work that people of my generation did, because of the environment she was brought up in, and the younger one not so much, because her mom is more than 10 years younger than me. I never considered staying home full time, and wouldn't have done so, even if I had a ton of money back then. It seems like neither of my DILs want to "do it all," like i did.