What would you think/do?

[ny biker]

It's good to know that my perception of/reaction to the situation comes close to that of others. I grew up being bullied by my family and others, and was always told that I was guilty of being overly sensitive about it.

This is a pretty classic 1-2 punch. First they knock you down, then they criticize/blame you for being on the floor. They can't acknowledge that your feelings are valid because then they would be forced to realize that they did something wrong. But your feelings are valid. Really it's another thing you can't control -- it's an emotion. What you can control is how you deal with it, whether it's hitting back physically or verbally or turning the other cheek and forgiving them or any of the many other possibilities in between.

Bear in mind that this woman had the choice to move to another spot, but instead she chose to be stay put and say nasty things. It seems to me that she has plenty of deficiencies, to say the least.

I know what you mean about reacting on impulse -- it can be hard to cut through the emotion and see a situation clearly. It happens to all of us at times. But you definitely did not blow things out of proportion.

[Crankin]

This whole thing is so discouraging. How are people supposed to get fit from these types of activities, if they are bullied?
The others in my boot camp class are kind of tri/running snobs. They have always been friendly to me, but once they learned I was not going to ride with them, I hate swimming, and competition is not my cup of tea, a few stopped talking to me. It's 5:30 AM and it's not that many people, so I engage the ones who are friendly, and I make the others listen to me talk about my cycling trips. I am at least 15 years older than most of them, I don't think they have any idea.

[ny biker]

The others in my boot camp class are kind of tri/running snobs. They have always been friendly to me, but once they learned I was not going to ride with them, I hate swimming, and competition is not my cup of tea, a few stopped talking to me.

This reminds me of a few parties I went to when I first moved to DC. The person hosting worked on Capital Hill as a congressional aide and most of the guests did too. After people found out I had a totally different career, they ignored me for the rest of the party. At one of the parties I ended up talking to a priest (childhood friend of the host) the whole night.

I don't typically talk to folks at the gym. At my old gym I got to know a few people but mostly that was through my trainer, who is very social. But for the most part I prefer to listen to my mp3 player and just focus on my workout.

[Helene2013]

Same for hubby bike club....the "pros" are always staying together and are so minded into leaving for the ride that they are in their own world totaling ignoring the "normal" riders, which are not bad at all (my husband is in the 2nd fastest group. But even so, he is not part of the click just as not any of the other riders from group 2, 3, etc... Worst is he knows one of the "pro" guys because he is the brother our ex-back neighbour!!! So just to say that some people may think they are just better than you and instead of sharing their knowledge/experiences while waiting for the ride to start, they prefer to remain amongst themselves with their super bikes, facing back the other riders. It is something that was brought up to the club, but did nothing.

And OMG...if a slower group happens to pass them (due to a flat or other from one of them), it is BAD! They do all they can to regain the front of ride (in fact they disappear quickly as they ride easily over 45km/h.

I suppose it is the reality of some people. Just like you find clicks on discussion boards, too often.

[Wasp]

http://globalnews.ca/news/1909089/kr...haters-thanks/

Ignorant shallow people are everywhere. I like to think that people that make cruel and ignorant remarks clearly do not understand the power of the spoken word. I feel bad that this happened to you, however take comfort that your not alone in over hearing such hurtful comments. The last time I over heard someone making a snarky remark that referred to myself, I confronted the person right away and repeated the statement to her face (in front of her group) and asked if I had "heard her correctly or misunderstood". Needless to say she shut right up.

The link I posted (hopefully it works) explains the treatment from a few nasty TV viewers towards a local news weather person who is pregnant with her second child and how it has effected her. It's just so uncalled for and sad.

I think you should continue doing what your comfortable doing. I get you don't want to go back as the instructor has brought this forward to the class, but the flip side of that is you may be pleasantly surprised at the warm welcome back from the non-*****y class members.