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**rebeccaC** · 12-02-2016, 10:13 PM

NYâ€¦.i feel the same way.....and Iâ€™ve never found anger to take me anywhere positive. We are fortunate to have lots of non-profits and state/city programs here doing great work especially in the more disadvantaged areas. Alex and I have started to give even more time and money to the causes we have embraced. That helps us deal in a positive way with our concerns and replaces anger with the feelings of helping others, seeing the courage in people struggling, seeing the wholeness of others and the unique story each person hasâ€¦..each with their own potential and dreams. For both of us itâ€™s just about a compassionate way of living.

Thanks for the linkâ€¦.I like the callitout ideaâ€¦.when we turn away from someone being assailed because of their race, ethnicity, religion, gender or sexual orientation we become part of a larger moral problem.

**Crankin** · 12-03-2016, 03:21 AM

I do that stuff everyday, Rebecca. I *work* for a non profit, it's a choice, when my peers from grad school have all started private practices. I just can't do it, as it eliminates a wide diversity in the people you serve.
I don't see why saying one is angry is a bad thing. I do all of the stuff you note, but I am still angry at what happened. Maybe upset is a better word? I am not clinically angry, there's no homicidal ideation going on in my mind, but I just fear what could happen. It would be easy for me to live in a bubble, considering where I live, but at the least it's made me even more outspoken than usual!
I have never been a quiet or outwardly calm person. Some of it's cultural, and some of it is my personality. I am very calm in emergency situations and in my work, but generally I subscribe to the "call it out" all of the time. This is how change happens.

**rebeccaC** · 12-11-2016, 02:16 PM

Originally Posted by shootingstar

I gave up on makeup about 6 yrs. ago. So I am barefaced at the office where I work with lots of men and women. Yes, I do have some age spots, etc. on face. I am like this even wearing more formal suits, dresses and dress shoes/heels.

I don't want makeup accentuating the lines even more. I don't want to worry about make-up and running the washroom just because of that.

Feeling comfortable with no makeup ftw!!!...and interesting read in your minimalism link. I also like simple, comfortable, quality clothing that has a timeless look and is well made for longevity. Iâ€™m a fan of Jil Sander especially.

I use non-comedogenic makeup and mostly a 'no makeup look' regimen when I feel like itâ€¦.and no makeup when I feel like that.
I think itâ€™s more important to; take care of my skin with dietâ€¦lots of antioxidants, omega-3, good saturated fats etc etcâ€¦..and of course cocoa

which contains epicatchin and catechin which protects skin from sun damage and improves circulation to skin cellsâ€¦.the use of a gentle cleanser, nontoxic moisturizers and nontoxic sunscreen dailyâ€¦.getting a therapeutic facial at least once a month and simply staying hydrated and getting enough sleep among other things. Thinking my skin is going to age no matter what but helping it in ways that can make it happen in way that I know Iâ€™ve cared well for it is enough for me. I donâ€™t buy into what my mother, who taught me good skin care, calls the â€˜hope in a jarâ€™ that some older women can feel the need for. We age and I think that has a unique beauty to it in itself and more important to me is how well I develop my mind and character as i grow older.

**Dogmama** · 12-12-2016, 05:05 AM

At age 62, I walk a fine line between no makeup and too much. I need a little but overdone is definitely bad. For foundation, I use a tinted sunscreen. Eye makeup must be very light, otherwise it looks hard. I do find myself skipping the makeup routine more often...

**rebeccaC** · 08-16-2017, 11:59 PM

Perhaps low self-esteem, lack of emotional intelligence and a more narrow life focus. Personally I prefer helping women with low self-esteem caused by sexual abuse and victimization than dealing with the kind of men with low self-esteem on the net youâ€™re writing aboutâ€¦I'm not on the net much but I do see some of it briefly on one site I post music and photography to. I just put the person on my ignore list so I donâ€™t have to deal with their negativity or read their posts in the future.

Be the light Paxâ€¦..

**Crankin** · 08-17-2017, 04:06 AM

I don't include people like that in my circle. Thus, I go on no other forums, except this one! The web seems to give permission for people to say things they wouldn't say face to face.
That said, I also don't like being around women who constantly bash males and make generalizations that sound like, "Well, he's a man, what do you expect?" It was rampant in the teaching profession. They would frequently say things to allude to the fact that my opinion didn't count, because my husband is "nice." Oy.
Most of my practice and the group I run consists of people experiencing trauma from abuse. Mostly women, but a couple of men, too. I can feel deeply for them and work with them, but it does not color my view of society in general.
This only supports my strong belief that is up to mothers of sons to instill feminist values and equality in their children. It amazes me how even younger people fall into traditional roles.

**rebeccaC** · 09-05-2017, 11:29 PM

stay safe smilingcatâ€¦.from the internet news articles and videos it looks like an incredibly dangerous and still out of control wild fire. If the theory of how it started (15 year old boy throwing firecrackers) proves true itâ€™s an important lesson in how a careless act can cause such damage and suffering. as a side note..the loss of parts of the gorge's natures beauty is a huge loss for all.

My prayers for everyoneâ€™s safetyâ€¦â€¦