I can sympathize, it's so hard to figure out the right fit on your first road bike, there's so much to get accustomed to!
I've been pretty fortunate with the fit on my first road bike, but even still, over the last couple of months I switched to narrower handlebars, and I just recently put on a new stem with a shorter top length. These are things you just don't know until you know, I suppose.
CS, I hope you found (or will find) a bike that fits you better!