That's exactly what I meant by the "gray area" kids. They needed as much, or more help than some of the kids who were diagnosed. Some of them have talents in hands on things, which, in elementary and middle school, have no outlet.
The model I described does work well in middle schools because of the physical structure of the day and teams, but we used the same thing in the elementary school I worked in for 4 years. For 2 of those years, I was the special ed teacher and the other 2 years, I taught 5th grade. There were 2 special ed teachers for grades 1-5 and we used a lot of assistants. I went into 2nd and 4th grade classrooms and co-taught math and LA, and then did pull out for reading for the most severely impacted kids.
I still think that your colleague needs to get her medical situation in order, either by a leave or some new medication. Anxiety can be crippling, but it is the most common mental health problem that is treated in the US. It's not the same as stress. I have 2 former colleagues who were a real pain to work with and I was told now are on medication and in therapy. I saw one of them when I was doing an eval at my old school; what a positive change! She had a pretty severe mood disorder, which, while it was never aimed at me, and she did great work, always got her into trouble with parents, kids, and sometimes the principal. She would just say mean things and then I would have to mop it up. I am really happy for her, because she has 2 little girls now and she is really calm.
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