Lopsided relationships with family sucks. We only hear from my brother-in-law and or his wife when they want something from us or need us to do something for them. We call them back now only when we have the time. We tried not calling them back at all, but then they complained to the in-laws and we didn't want to cause the in-laws any grief as they are now in there 80's, so we went back to answering the phone......but not every time they call.