Wierd mid-life indulgences

[Irulan]

I've spent most of my life trying to keep my underwear out of my crack, the idea of intentionally wedging it in there seems bizarre to me.

Awesome lol moment.

[Irulan]

The only way thongs are "inappropriate" is if they are worn in such a way that others can see them when you're out in public! Then again, it's not so cool if the public can see your underwear no matter what kind it is.

Evidently a lot of people these days don't think it's inappropriate to have underwear showing.

but to stay on topic.... I finally started buying myself clothes I like that we can afford. I've always skimped here and I finally decided, why not? I want to look decent when we go out. I live in cargo pants and sweatshirts, get filthy dirty working some days. I found some great riding boots at a Macy's sale. 40% off plus coupons... what's not to love? I also dyed my hair and had the gal put some purple in it. Now THAT was a midlife indulgence. My point is, a mid life indulgence isn't "weird" if you can afford it Sometimes it feel different or uncomfortable to do something different or new.

[marni]

I have 11 spots on my head where the hair grows in swirls and all sorts of direction (drawing a mind blank of the true name of this) so I have always worn my hair very short. I love my #4 buzz which avoids helmet hair, scraggles sticking out and dries of with a towel. Can't say it looks gorgeous on me but I am so far beyond trying to look gorgeous because I never was in the first place. There is a woman at the gym who hir comes down to her knees and its gorgeous to look at and she is used to it, but its not for me.

[OakLeaf]

Yeah, the bit about bra straps and waistbands showing reminded me that it wasn't so long ago that T-shirts and singlets were strictly underwear, and a person certainly wouldn't take off the shirt they wore over it, except at home among intimates.

[Crankin]

I really don't like the bra strap showing look. Perhaps it dates me as old, but there are bras to wear for all types of clothing. Plus, almost all of the regular bras I have come with a hook to convert to a racer back bra. So, maybe wear a camisole or a strapless bra, or buy a Coobie bra. But, that's just me. Fifteen years ago, I wore my bra top with nothing at the gym. Now, I would feel awkward, although I look OK. I went running in a bra top about 2 years ago, on a very hot day, and felt naked.

[Eden]

I've spent most of my life trying to keep my underwear out of my crack, the idea of intentionally wedging it in there seems bizarre to me.

ROFLMAO - I could never wear a thong. It would drive me bananas. I can't go commando in regular pants either though. I find *any* seam, even on light pants much less jeans to be highly, highly irritating.

[Pax]

I have 11 spots on my head where the hair grows in swirls and all sorts of direction (drawing a mind blank of the true name of this) so I have always worn my hair very short. I love my #4 buzz which avoids helmet hair, scraggles sticking out and dries of with a towel. Can't say it looks gorgeous on me but I am so far beyond trying to look gorgeous because I never was in the first place. There is a woman at the gym who hir comes down to her knees and its gorgeous to look at and she is used to it, but its not for me.

I would love to wear mine in a buzz cut, but being tall and heavy makes it socially uncomfortable. I get called "sir" all the time and using the women's restroom is just painful. So, I keep it short and a bit fluffy to keep people at bay.

[ny biker]

The drift in this thread is amazing.

[zoom-zoom]

I'm starting to eyeball crazy expensive face creams with retinol. I didn't think wrinkles would bother me when I was younger and didn't have any. But at 40 I do have them and they do bother me.

I'm also thinking of doing something nuts with my hair, but more in the form of a garish-colored streak. My hair is fairly long. I kind of like it long, even though it's starting to become increasingly gray. My grays are a really attractive platinum that ends up looking like super-blonde streaks in my very pale hair. I find it easier to deal with long hair than the more frequent maintenance that comes with keeping a shorter style looking good. I can go 2 months between trims without going bonkers. I can toss it in a ponytail when it's warm...and when it's cold it keeps my neck warm.

[Irulan]

Zoom-zoom : so funny about the hair. Mine was turning a quite lovely silvery salt and pepper. I decided that I just wasn't ready for ituet, and went for a deep auburn with violet high lights.

[shootingstar]

Since a wide leather belt with jeans is new to me, now I realize: I'm not going to wear a belt going through airport security. Stick it in my suitcase.

This may not be a mid-life indulgence, but just change in taste: I seem to lean more on wearing lighter/brighter/jewel colours near my face. The older I get, the less desire to wear sombre colours close to my face, unless it was a rich velvety black, rich deep brown, etc.

Haircuts in last 2 yrs. have become much shorter, more sculptural.

[zoom-zoom]

That sounds beautiful!!

[TrekDianna]

My partner feels the same way. Hers is past her shoulders, one length with bangs in the front. She finds it easy and fast to fix. She also has a lot of hair and it grows fast.

Seriously, I can rub my head with a towel for 20 seconds and my hair it's dry. I love it. Haven't used a blow dryer in years.

I don't own a blow dryer, curling iron -- any of that stuff. Never have. I just got back from a trip to the east coast and the overhead bins were full. They were making people check their carry on at the gate - one woman was frantically rummaging through her luggage and pulled out a straightener, a blow dryer and a curling iron and hand carried them on the plane rather than having them in her checked luggage. A bit too attached to them I think.

[Jolt]

I don't own a blow dryer, curling iron -- any of that stuff. Never have. I just got back from a trip to the east coast and the overhead bins were full. They were making people check their carry on at the gate - one woman was frantically rummaging through her luggage and pulled out a straightener, a blow dryer and a curling iron and hand carried them on the plane rather than having them in her checked luggage. A bit too attached to them I think.

I don't own any of that stuff either...no interest in any hair style that is high maintenance enough to require it. Agree on longer hair often being easier to deal with than shorter styles...no need to get it cut every 4-6 weeks and doesn't require as much styling. Really short hair can be nice as far as being easy to wash and go, but the frequent cuts are a pain. I had mine really short for years during junior high to college, but finally grew it out after getting tired of being mistaken for a teenage boy! Decided I'd rather grow the hair out than feel like I had to wear makeup or dress super girly all the time since a lot of that stuff is just not practical. Now thinking about getting it cut to shoulder length (it's about mid back now).

[shootingstar]

There is a reality that some of us a) just look / feel crappy without some minor hair appliance touch-ups on hair. b) some of us just are not suited to super short cuts/cannot afford very frequent short haircuts. c) some of us look lousy in long hair (for minimal care).


I did used to cycle-tour with...a curling iron. Now my hair is cut quite short..meaning my full ear lobes show that I no longer use one. I know I look nicer in slightly longer hair but just can't be bothered. So I have sacrificed looking "prettier" by forgoing make-up and hair appliances.

I do secretly hope a hotel or friend has a hair blower when I'm on the cycling trip road, when my short hair grows long enough that it flops straight down. I actually try to time it for a longer vacation trip somewhere, that my hair is short enough that I don't need any hair appliance.

Let's not talk about me using hair wax, gels to "lift" my hair. Did you know black gelled hair can attract..dust/pollen? (And I refuse to be a blonde Asian.)