((((((Blueberry))))))
I'm so sorry about your friend.
I'm struggling to get back on my bike too, and at this point the emotional barriers are definitely higher than the physical ones. I think Indy is right, there's a point where you just have to make yourself get out there. I'm driving up in the morning to do part of the club ride - as much as I hate driving farther than I'm planning to ride, just having it on the schedule is a way of making myself go for a ride. And even though I'll still be doing half of it by myself, half of a ride with friends is worth it to me.
I'm lucky in that being way out of shape actually makes me more compatible with this particular club.
Can you maybe find a slower club ride than you're accustomed to, so you won't feel bad about your conditioning trying to ride with your usual riding buddies?
Speed comes from what you put behind you. - Judi Ketteler