Either doesn't know non-car options or just lazy

[shootingstar]

It's partly due to personal friends making judgments about my commute. Believe me, I've tried. I've gotten creative. There's no good way. If there were, I and the 20 people I've talked to about it would have found it. But people still judge. I'm sure you have tried. And it's enough just to tell people that you did after all. (At least for me it would be good enough.)

I have a real face to face friend who does work on cycling matters for city as part of job, but she drives-commute or on certain weeks is part of a car-pool. Latter has been complicated because she tends to work long hrs. So she's happy to drive commute, but as part of her paid job, promote car-pooling, paid car-share, cycling and transit. It makes the other part of job "easier", which is measuring car traffic demand on our local roads. More congestion over the years, because our city is the fastest growing in Canada.

[lph]

Well, I can understand you feeling puzzled and being irritated that he didn't use the options that were obvious to you. Nothing wrong with being annoyed, after all we have a lengthy "Dear So-and-so"-thread dedicated to ranting about stuff that bugs us. And you certainly could have pointed it out to him, but it sounds like you don't like the guy much so maybe casual conversation is out.

But you're rather strongly implying that he "should" have known about and used other forms of transit, and it's not a question of "should". He didn't know, or didn't want to use it for whatever reason, and unless it affects you personally you're not really entitled to an opinion apart from a casual comment. People make rational and irrational decisions all the time and that's free will.

Every winter I will overhear some colleague who drives to work going on about some cyclist who "shouldn't have been out there" as if it were a moral imperative, because they saw a cyclist struggling in the snow, without knowing anything at all about why this person chose to cycle. Emotional ranting is one thing, but seriously discussing that someone should be doing this or that gets my hackles up. (They usually shut up when they see me coming though )