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[Owlie]

((Indy))

Today is my last day in Ohio. I don't know how I feel about this.

[indysteel]

((Indy))

Today is my last day in Ohio. I don't know how I feel about this.

Thanks Owlie. Hugs to you, too. Leaving what has been one's home--even if an imperfect one--is difficult. Good luck. I hope you settle into Arizona with relative ease. What did you decide to do about moving your bikes?

[OakLeaf]

Today is my last day in Ohio. I don't know how I feel about this.

<waving from across the state>

Hope your move is uneventful and you settle in quickly. And ya know, if you get as homesick as I do when I'm away from Ohio too long ... we'll still be here when you're Dr. Owlie.

[Crankin]

You will love Tucson.

[malkin]

Dr. Owlie has such a professional ring to it!!

[Crankin]

My DIL's father passed away this morning. I know this sounds strange, but I am really proud of my son, for taking on the lion's share of dealing with his short and terrible illness, as well as finding social services for his MIL. Such dysfunction there. They held their boundaries and this woman will not be moving in with them. We haven't seen them since Father's Day because of this, and are looking forward to seeing them this weekend. There isn't going to be any service, so I hope their life can get back to normal.

[indysteel]

Not strange it all, Crankin. I imagine it's very gratifying for a parent to see their adult child handling a difficult situation, well, like an adult. Frankly, I'm often saddened by the parents I know who are either seemingly unconcerned that their adult child are still looking to their parents to handle things for them or who are all too eager to step in and take charge. Maybe it's because my own parents didn't often parent me, but I've taken great pride in my own self-sufficiency and wherewithal.

I'm sorry for your son and DIL's loss though and that it's been a difficult period for them.

[Crankin]

We were asked for advice, mostly on where to look for help (the in laws had no money, etc) for the MIL. This woman did not know how to parent, due to her own horrible upbringing (she was in foster care) and it is amazing my DIL has achieved what she has. DS told me that when DIL was in 5th grade, she had to take a class on "hygiene skills," as no one ever told her she had to brush her teeth daily, among other things. He also once said, "Mom, can you believe a teacher had to tell her mom to read to her?" At that time, I didn't know the whole story, but now it makes sense. DS found a community service agency that is just for residents of Boston, that is going to provide lots of case work assistance. I hope she gets some clinical assistance, too; it's never too late.
We do get asked for advice by both of them, and we give it, but, it's up to them to take it!