Quote Originally Posted by katluvr View Post
Dear everyone or anyone that cares,
I know I don't have HUGE problems but the past few months all the small things have added up. No one wants to hear me list the things so I'll just do it here!
So mom completed her chemo for her BC reoccurrence, but the resulting neuropathy and mobility issues are really not fair. She was difficult enough to deal with before all the added issues. Just a bit more stress for me (and poor dad).
April our beloved bird Shakey died, although we knew it would happened it still seemed sudden when he died in our hands in the few hours after we returned from vacation. Miss that noisy bird. Oh then my SO lost her job. Financially we are ok, but the emotion of getting laid off, fighting with unemployment, applying for jobs and trying to figure out what she wants to do was tough. To do what you love doesn't pay, getting back into the IT world again--is that the right thing for her to do? Wish we could retire now!!
On trip with my parents to my niece's graduation with some bumps and stress only to be called my pet sitter that our beloved Pepper (cat) was refusing to eat (never happens). By the time my SO gets home he is very sick, I make it home to spend one night with him before he passes the next day. This was devastating. He was such a presence in our house.
Lastly (maybe) I have never had an issue with my boss. But my current supervisor is horrible. She has no idea what me and the other members of my team do, really no concept. Nor does she ever come to see us, check in to see how we are doing. But she will f*&% with our schedule! I love my co-workers and what I do, but she is making me think about looking for a new job!
So lots of little stressors that at times weigh on me. I know things could be worse but I really hate it when people say that to me!
That is alot of not so little things. Be kind to yourself and your SO. Be sure to communicate with those around you, even your boss. It is much easier to shut down but do remember to say to others that there has been quite a bit of change in your life recently (you don't have to do the details) and that you are doing your best to grapple. That way if you fly off the handle, etc. they will hopefully be a bit more compassionate and not just assume you are being a B**** - been there more than once