It really sounds like your STBX has significant issues. Sounds like one is his mother! Keep looking forward, FGG, this man is not his own but Mommie Dearest's. This all sounds real familiar with so many other things I've heard over the years and has odors of my own father and his relationship with his mother. My dad couldn't make a decision without her input and really making the decision for him. He is not a man yet and may never be. My dad never was.