I found a group that I fit in with by accident, when one of the members came on a ride I was leading. He suggested that I would be a good match and he was right. I don't get to ride with them much now, but it still holds true. Also, the other club I ride with, and lead for, is an outdoor club, not just cycling. It attracts a different kind of person and while some of them are a little too "granola-ish" for me, they tend to have a more social attitude toward cycling.